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Radical Candor
Radical Candor

Episode 8 · 1 year ago

Radical Candor S3, Mini Ep. 2: It's Not Mean, It's Clear

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According to research from Gallup, less than 15% of managers feel confident that the feedback they provide to employees is effective and only 26% of employees say the feedback they receive from their managers is helpful. Sound familiar? If you're forgetting the helpful part of Radical Candor, your feedback is probably falling flat. On the second mini-episode of the Radical Candor podcast, Kim explains why Radical Candor is helpful and talks about the helpful feedback she got from a complete stranger that gave her words to live by: It's not mean, it's clear. Read the show notes >>

Hi AMMI Sandler, host of the radical candor podcast. These bite size shows feature Kim giving radical candor tips. There between five to ten minutes long and will be released in between regular episodes. Enjoy it with a Smith. So rapidly candid criticism is helpful. The reason why it's helpful is easy to understand if you think about a simple case like spinach in the teeth. It's not mean to tell somebody there's spinach in their teeth. In fact, is kind of mean not to tell them. Right, it's easy thing to fix now. For sometimes a situation is a little bit more complicated than spinach in your teeth and you may not know what the solution is, you may not have a toothpick, candy or whatever. But in those cases at least just sharing what you see with somebody else in a spirit of here's an issue, I'm with you to help you fix it. You're not alone and whatever the problem...

...is, that's helpful. Another reason why people are reluctant to criticize often is that they're worried they're wrong. But if you're wrong, when you criticize somebody, it's okay. You do one of two things. Either you give them the opportunity to fix the problem. Maybe you're not wrong, or you give them the opportunity to fix your misperception. So the radically candid all for that criticism. It's going to help the people you work with. When done, might radical candor should feel like brushing and flossing for your relationships. In fact, one of one of the journalists who I was working with as we were rolling out the book sent me this email and he said, how long do these radical candor therapy sessions have to take? And the truth is that the origin story of radical candor happened in the space of time. It took a light to change. On the streets of Manhattan, I had just gotten a new puppy, Belvidere, golden achiever puppy, and I loved Belvidere. I...

...adored her so much I had never said a cross word to her and, as a result, she was totally out of control. So I'm taking her for a walk one night and she jumps in front of a cab. I pull her out of the way just before she gets squashed like a pancake and I'm standing on the side of the street with my heart and my throat and a man, a perfect stranger, looks at me and he says, I can see really love that dog. That's all he has to do to move up on the care personally, to mention a radical candor. He doesn't have to know my kids names or remember my birthday or any of that. I can see you really love that dog. But he says to me you'RE gonna kill that dog if you don't teach her to sit. And then he points at the ground and he says sit. Dogs sacked. I had no idea she even knew what that meant. I kind of looked up at him in amazement and he said to me, it's not mean, it's clear, and...

...then the light changed and he walked off, leaving me with words to live by. So, especially if you feel like you're struggling with ruin a sympathy, it's not mean, it's clear, is a great mantra for you. If you feel like you're struggling with obnoxious aggression, you might want to think of a different kind of mantra.

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